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Tuesday
Apr052011

23 Signs You're In A Emotionally Abusive Relationship


These signs can apply to BOTH Females & Males. If you or someone you know think you might be in a emotionally abusive relationship... Please know that you are worth more and deserve better. Emotional abuse is the first warning that comes before actual physical abuse. The warning signs may not be obvious to you at first... Take a look at the emotional abuse warning signs i found on the helpguide.org website. Also visit a article i posted back in January 2011.

Do you have inner thoughts & feelings like these?

  • feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
  • avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
  • feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
  • believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
  • feel emotionally numb or helpless?

Does your partner have the following belittleing behavior?
  • humiliate or yell at you?
  • criticize you and put you down?
  • treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
  • ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
  • blame you for his own abusive behavior?
  • see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

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Sunday
Apr032011

Single Black Women... Why Are There So Many Of Us?


Why are there so many single Black women? This is the question that has been on everyone's mind including all the major networks from NBC, ABC, CNN, FOX and even OPRAH. On the Oprah show they talk about how statistics show that 70% of black women are single. Other networks have reported the high statistics are due to things like black on black crime, incarceration, lack of education, lack of employment, down low men and men choosing to date outside the black race.

As Jay Z would say... "numbers don't lie". There is a problem in the Black community, there are just not enough black men available to accomadate the 70% of women who are single. Oprah and others suggest Black women have no choice but to consider being more open minded and dating outside the Black race or else end up being single forever. Do you agree?





Tuesday
Mar292011

10 Lies Almost ALL Women Tell 


I came across these lies by Anslem Samuel & Murphy who are (both men) from different sites. I HATE to admit it (sorry ladies) but the guys are pretty much on point... check it out and let me know what you think.

1. "I'm looking for a good man."

Then why do you keep dating losers? Women say they want a certain type of man but oftentimes end up dealing with guys that are the complete opposite, while the supposed "good" guys are left by the wayside. Clearly, women don't know what they want or what's good for them. Where do you think the phrase, "nice guys finish last" came from?

2. "I don't know why I'm single."

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Wednesday
Mar232011

5 Signs He's NOT The One


Have you ever been in a relationship with a man you knew wasn't the one but STILL you stayed knowing he was no good for you? I think almost all of us have been guilty of this atleast once. I myself have been guilty of it in the past but eventually i learned my lesson and so can you.

Check out this list i came across by Liz Campanille of the 5 signs he's not the one... i feel the list is very accurate. I broke up with someone over #2 ... and #1 is a deal breaker for me, trust is a MUST, without it, you will NEVER have a good relationship.

1. You can’t trust him.

Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, and without it, there is no relationship to be had. The concept of trust permeates every facet of any partnership with two people, most significantly in romantic ones.

Trust can cover many types of behavior, including doing what he says he’s going to do, keeping promises, showing up, and following through. These are all important actions in the dating dynamic. In a galaxy far away, I dated a guy who was always shifty and vague when we made plans. This made me not trust him, and as it later turned out, he was validating my fears with his infidelity. In a word… next!

2. He brings out the worst in you.

Any man who seems to thrive on conflict or discord within your relationship is bad news. If he’s anything less than compassionate and supportive, chances are he’s not into the relationship for anything other than drama. The point of a romantic relationship is to love, support and nurture each other. (Contrary to what reality shows might tell you, they’re not about drama, hurt feelings, conspiracy plots, or psychologist bills.)

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Tuesday
Mar222011

Top 5 Communication Tips For Couples


I came across some interesting communication tips for couples that i wanna share with you. The tips are by David Steele, a Relationship Coach, Author and Founder/CEO of LifePartnerQuest Relationship Coaching Resources. All the tips are good but i STRONGLY agree with tip #1. If you are having communication issues in your relationship, I hope you find this useful.

1. Use The 3 Magic Words of Listening- “Is there more?”

For most people, listening is far more challenging than talking. If you do nothing else, being attentive to what your partner is saying and using these 3 magic words will make you a star listener. Try it!

Are you wondering what the “3 Magic Words Of Speaking” are? Simply … “I love you”. If you are expressing things that may be difficult for your partner to hear, be sure to start and end with these healing words.

2. It’s Not About You!

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Monday
Mar212011

10 Lies Men Tell... Have You Heard These Before?


I came across a article on Black Voices that listed 10 Lies Men tell (SMH) i have to say i pretty much agree with most of the list... let me know what you think. Fella's let me know if it's accurate... Ladies, let me know if you have been told any of these lies before.

1. "I'll call you."

It isn't hard to make a phone call. At least it wasn't before text messaging replaced actual conversation and relationships were catapulted from social networking sites and Instant Messaging conversations. Yet somehow it seems easier for men to end a conversation with, "I'll call you later" or "I'll call you right back" instead of being honest and saying, "I will try to call. I might even think about it, but I most likely won't because my attention span is akin to a golden retriever's."

2. "My phone was dead/off/on silent."

Most of the lies men tell are directly linked to wrongdoing. READ: CHEATING. When a man says his phone is off, it usually means he was getting off...with someone other than you.

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Tuesday
Mar152011

5 Signs You're TOO Clingy

written by @DjCocoaChanelle

We all know that most men feel there's nothing worse than a clingy woman... well guess what? Us ladies don't like clingy men either... in fact i don't think anyone likes a clinger, its a huge turn off.

Most people assume clinginess is a female trait but "Let's be clear" it is NOT only females who possess this trait, i have experienced for myself and even seen friends who are males possess the clingy trait.

No one may ever admit it, but at some point, most of us

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Monday
Mar142011

5 affordable tips for romancing her on a budget


Some people say... if you can't afford to take a woman on a date then you should just remain single until your financial situation gets better, there is some truth to that in certain situations however... sometimes love strikes at inconvenient times and cupid is not willing to wait. I don't believe you should let love pass you by just because you are on hard times... so i came up with some ideas that i know the average woman (if she's REALLY feeling you and is NOT a gold digger) will appreciate...

1. Cook dinner for her

Instead of going out for a expensive dinner, why not do the cooking yourself? You can get a couple of GOOD steaks for a affordable price and add a side dish or 2... You don't have to cook steak, you can ask her what's her favorite dish, then cook whatever it is... If she really likes you, she'll appreciate the effort, its very sweet and even sexy for a man to cook dinner for you... If you don't know how to cook at all whatsoever... ask someone (your mother, auntie, sister, cousin) to help you out or go online and google HOW TO.

2. Buy her a teddy bear

The average woman loves and appreciates flowers, a dozen fresh cut roses is a GOOD look, but that can easily add up to over $100, if its not in the budget, then what? Do you buy her the cheaper looking non-rose type flowers and risk coming off like a cheapskate? hmmm, i don't recommend it. I would suggest you buy her a really cute teddy bear for under $25, teddy bears are affordable and I don't know a woman on plant earth who doesn't LOVE them. You'll get cool points for that, she'll love it, (trust me)

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Wednesday
Mar092011

5 Tips To Having A Great First Kiss 


Sometimes men just don't realize how important a first kiss is to a woman... if you blow the first kiss, there may not be a second. A lot of us ladies decide after the first kiss if we would like to see you again.

I came across a list by a man called "TOP 10 secrets to a great kiss"... the list was horrible!! After reading it i couldn't help but think to mysef "WOW, is this what men think we want?".. so i decided to give you some REAL tips on what you can do to have a great first kiss :)

1.Timing is everything

You never get a second chance to have a first kiss with someone. a kiss at the wrong moment can not only be akward but it can ruin the moment completely. I once went out with a guy who got up out his chair at the table and kissed me outta no where... there was no build up or anything, i liked him but the timing was off, i didnt kiss him back (akkkkkward) to say the least, lol... make sure that she is ready to be kissed, a woman will give you signs that she wants it. If it's at the end of the night and she didnt pull out her keys or isn't rushing in the door.. that's a good sign that she's feeling you.

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Monday
Mar072011

5 Reasons Why Women Cheat


I came across this list and decided to share it... i must say, i feel it's pretty accurate. Fella's you might wanna take a look. Most women are driven by emotions. Once we give you our heart, you have us mind body and soul until you drop the ball in some type of way.. men usually will cheat and it means nothing to them.. it's usually different with women, if your lady is cheating, it's probably for emotional reasons... something is lacking. Unlike when a man cheats and it means nothing... There's a good chance that if she's cheating, she has feelings for the side dude.

1. Revenge/Resentment

“Hell has no fury like a woman scorned.” You’ve heard that saying, right? Well, apparently it’s truer than most people realize. The most common reason women give for cheating is payback. Even a woman who is normally faithful in relationships may be likely to cheat if she’s heartbroken. Her way of “getting you back” may be taboo, but that doesn’t mean she won’t do it. An unhealthy build-up of resentment and bitterness may be just enough to push your wife or girlfriend to do things that are out of character for her.

2. Quest for romance and intimacy

Although many women fall in love with courtship and the romance that comes with it, it is common for the wooing to die off after a long-term relationship or marriage ensues. Well guess what…there are plenty of guys out there hoping for an opportunity to romance your lady if you won’t do it. And there are, unfortunately, many women cheating with Mr. Romantic. He’ll shower her with flowers, kisses, compliments, and nights on the town while you complain about not having time.

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