1. You just can’t stand the sight of him/her
The sound of his car pulling up on the driveway makes your heart drop. You feel heavy in your thought, and you secretly hope that he/she doesn’t open the door and comes in.
2. Disrespectful and Distrust
If you look at the person with disgust, and it is just irritating you when he/she talks.
3. Abusive in all forms
There is verbal, mental, emotional and/or physical abuses.
4. No willingness to work on the big issues
You just cannot see the future with your partner in any circumstances. You and your partner seem reluctant to work on the big issues. You can’t find a middle ground. You can’t find any compromises on either part and you're not willing to get help.
5. You can’t recall any good memories
You can’t remember any good times, or good things about your partner. Resentments had build up over the years that your mind is flooded with bad memories. You repeat the same bad cycles when you are around each other. You realize that you are not the best person you want to be.